Why do you need a big one?

Entrepreneur Peter Barton is on the top of the world.

Until he is not.

Patton lives a life that everyone dreams of, takes good care of himself, and is the great husband and father of his family.

Then on a day of fate, his world was shattered:

Diagnosis of advanced cancer.

Work becomes less important, and other experiences no longer make sense. He tries to pick up the pieces as he mourns the future. He won’t see his children grow up or grow up with his wife.

Patton shares these thoughts and experiences in an absolutely heartbreaking book Don’t disappear,,,,, A paragraph has always been associated with me.

One day, Peter’s body was destroyed, succumbed to cancer, his head hurt, and his spirit was lower than ever. He said to his supportive wife: Defeated:

“I just can’t see this.”

She replied, “Finish one.”

Discovering the focus becomes the focus.

Patton was sentenced to life imprisonment and chose to “find a point of life” by writing books his children could read. Others can read and analyze the meaning of their own lives.

I considered “discovering the point to be the point” when I revisited another of my favorite books, inspired by the recent episode of my friend Bretty McKay The Art of Masculinity podcast.

Men seek meaning

Victor Frankl is a Holocaust survivor, psychotherapist, and the creator of a therapy called “object therapy.”

After spending the horrors of Auschwitz and other concentration camps, he wrote the first draft of a book, Men seek meaning,,,,, Within nine days.

He even planned to publish anonymously, but was convinced to his name at the last second to increase his survival story.

Since then, it continues to sell more than 16 volumes and translates them into more than 50 languages.

Frankl’s school of thought logotherapy is built around the idea that “the meaning of life is to find the meaning of life for everyone. He often mentions Nietzsche’s famous words:

“There is a reason why people who want to make a living can take on almost any way.”

Throughout the book, Frankl explains his thoughts and thoughts about life as he watches thousands of people die or be murdered.

Most notable in this short book is Frankl’s ability to find meaning and hope for humanity in one of the worst human atrocities ever.

The second half of this book takes a deeper look at the “logo”, encouraging us to find our own specific “meaning”.

“The meaning of life varies from person to person, every day and every hour.

>So what matters is not the meaning of general life, but the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment. ”

You may not be diagnosed with advanced cancer, nor will you suffer from atrocities in concentration camps.

But there may be one thing in your life to ask: “Why am I doing what I am doing?”

We might think that asking this question means we have a problem. We didn’t have a life at that time. We need help.

Frank feels differently. He believes that asking this question is crucial and healthy:

“The greatest task for anyone is to find meaning in his or her life.”

What if this uncomfortable conversation with yourself is actually part of the process?

What should I do if I ask this question?

Your “big why”

We talked a lot about “Your Big Why?” in the nerd’s fitness rebellion.

If we think logically, we will try to force ourselves to do things We don’t have wiring (or need).

certainly We don’t want to burn extra calories, get up early and avoid stuffing our faces with comfort food.

It takes extra effort, we have to feel hungry, we have to change our behavior. And our brains don’t want to do anything!

This may not be the “meaning of life” type of thing…but this is a very powerful reminder to help us stay consistent when life is when life gives us anything other than consistency:

• Why do we get up at 5 a.m. for a walk outside when it’s cold?
• Why do we say “yes” to salads and leptin when cookies and donuts are present?
• Why do we sweat (hair) and pick up weight (discomfortable)?
• Why do we force ourselves to breathe, run 5k or feel deeply conscious of us say yes?

We’ve talked a lot Our coaching clients and members NF Community:

Continuous reminders Why We do this usually keep us on track during the toughest moments after our motivation disappears:

Maybe we want to break the generational cycle of unhealthy relationships with the food we learn from our parents.

Maybe we want our kids to see that we can be a strong mom that can sweat and push themselves.

Maybe when we look in the mirror, we want to feel better about ourselves, or we know we always feel better back Exercise than we think forwardexercise?

Your challenge this week is to ask yourself why you are here:

• Why are you willing to experience the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings that change brings?
• Why would you like to try to learn a new skill or adjust your diet?
• Why are you willing to get up early and spend less time on the sofa?

Keep digging into your reasons. Keep asking “why” and see what’s going on.

Write it down.

Place it on mailing paper and stick it to the refrigerator, bathroom mirror, car dashboard.

-steve

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